Good questions do most of the work. Ask "any words for the couple?" and you get polite wishes. Ask a specific question and you get a story. These are ten that work, whether you are planning a wedding podcast, a video guestbook or a simple card box.
The questions
- How did you meet them? The easiest opening there is. Everyone has an answer, and it relaxes people.
- What did you think of them the first time you met? First impressions are often wrong, which is why they are funny.
- What is the funniest thing you have ever seen them do? Best asked to siblings and old friends.
- When did you realise they were right for each other? Parents and close friends often have a precise moment.
- What is one thing they do that nobody else notices? Brings out the small, affectionate details.
- Who is more likely to start an argument over nothing? Light, quick, and everyone has an opinion.
- What is the most them thing that has happened today? Keeps the recording rooted in the day itself.
- What should they remember when they are 80? Invites guests to say something that matters.
- What do you hope their life looks like in 20 years? Good for the end of a conversation.
- What would you like to say to them that you have never said? Use carefully. This is the one that makes people cry.
Why specific questions work better
Open requests make people perform. Specific questions let them remember. A remembered story comes with detail, timing and feeling, which is exactly what you want to hear in twenty years.
Match the question to the guest
Give the funny questions to the friends who will enjoy them, and the reflective ones to parents and grandparents. Mix both for everyone else. If you are working with us, we write your questions with you before the wedding, so they fit your people and your story.
Want to try one? Our Wedding Podcast page has a question generator halfway down.
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